social connection is more helpful to your daily life than understanding the truth of a particular fact or idea
- understanding the truth of a situation is important + pragmatic, better outcomes resulting from better decisions
- being part of a tribe is also important + better treatment from one's peers
facts don't change our minds, friendship does - the most frequent learning occurs from people who are nearby spectrum - curious, try to understand them
be kind first, be right later
- the goal is to connect with the other side, work with them
- argue to win is to break down the reality of the person