don’t be friends with toxic people, who will drain your energy
- victim
- selfish
- contagious
- negative alliances
- complains/blames
- misery loves company
champion
- seeks growth
- wants to improve
- has resources
- clear plan of action
- continuous process
- adapts & adults as needed
在自己成功和幸福时刻，真心为自己开心的人才是真心朋友 失败后不离不弃的友情
这个“分寸”我理解的就是尊重 - 无论多么亲密的人，我们首先要保持的是自尊，同时还要尊重对方 - 适用于所有的关系
stop trying to reason with unreasonable people
don’t like people who don’t like you
don’t waste your love on a person who doesn’t honor it
"I guess you are right" will save you so much time.
Being grateful in any situation is a superpower
多亲近那些鼓励你，愿意和你合作共赢的人 - support parter
All your relationships improve once you are at peace in your mind.
stay away for people
+ who get offended when you start putting yourself first
+ get jealous when you win
+ Only talk about themselves
人生短暂，要把时间花在最美好的事情上，要把精力耗费在最优秀的人身上
“That's awesome, I do XYZ almost every weekend at ABC”
Don't take things so personally from people who don't care about you. They don't care about you, so their opinion shouldn't matter to you.
choose your friends wisely never underestimate the power of osmosis
Trust is essential for long-lasting completely, But it must be earned Don’t give trust away cheaply
- 和你的交流清晰，真诚; 反之 模凌两可，产生不安全感 -对自己和他人都有明确的边界感，若有不当会道歉； 反之，自己的边界被践踏不明确表达，生闷气暗中攻击，侵犯了他人边界也不知或不道歉 -鼓励和支持你和其他人建立良好的关系 -积极沟通，化解矛盾和分析；反之逃避矛盾，想直接翻篇 -遇到挑战努力反思，成长；反之不反思或逃避 -让你感到被看见，被听到，被接纳；反之你感到被无视
和内地人，不要太露锋芒 - 以前的同学，亲友都要再了解 - 对过于政治化/受害者的人，不要太交往